Jesus + my Love Language

Jesus + my Love Language

I am a woman who loves words. I love to speak them and, obviously, I enjoy writing them.  I love making words fit together in enlightening and, sometimes, unorthodox ways. My favorite use of words is metaphors. I LOVE metaphors, can’t get enough of the things! With that ridiculously unnecessary set up being said, it should come as no surprise that my Love Language is Words of Affirmation.  I love being adorned by words that speak of my worth and beauty, and words that encourage me.

My husband, on the other hand, is a man of few words and expression.  He’d rather listen than speak and doesn’t get easily riled up.  He is, however, more partial to physical touch. 

I very much am not.  I’m pretty sure it’s at the bottom of my list and that’s probably where it will stay.

My point is between the two of us, it is an effort to speak to the other’s Love Language. Also, because it’s not innate for us to love specifically the way the other desires, we disappoint each other at times or fail to love each other perfectly.

Here’s the thing though: It is important for us to keep trying to hit the target, but the truth of it is we won’t always hit the bullseye.  This can leave us one of two options: Become bitter and resentful or be fulfilled by Jesus.

The other day I was in midweek service at church and pastor was reading a part of scripture that just tasted so good and was so fragrant to me.  I mean seriously, it was like a big plate of food that God placed in front of me and it was delicious! I later thought about that and why I am frequently impacted by simply reading the Word of God.  Then it hit me so heavy! My Love Language with God is the same as my Love Language in other relationships! The difference is that He never misses an opportunity to Love me perfectly.

See, it doesn’t matter how human my husband is at loving me, if I’m connected to the True Vine who never disappoints and is always willing to fill me with the Words I need, then I don’t have to rely on my husband to love me in every way.

Now, this does not excuse us from making earnest efforts to love our spouse fully or replace the need to make our desires known. But the truth is we simply cannot be everything our spouse needs, and they cannot be everything we need; we’re all limited in that way. 

But there is One who can truly Love and fulfill you. 

If your Love language is Quality Time, spend time in worship and prayer with God as much as possible.  If your Love Language is Physical Touch, ask God for physical manifestations of His presence; to feel Him and experience Him often.  If your Love Language is Acts of Service, find ways to meet with God through serving others or taking account of your blessings through Christ and acknowledging Him in them.  Whatever your Love Language is, try it through God. I promise He fulfills it better than anyone else.

What’s your Love Language? Take the test and find out! How important are Love Languages in your relationships? I’d love to hear your thoughts! Comment below and share with a friend.